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linda anne messenger
(1966 - 2007)

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Name: Miss linda anne messenger
Nick Name: linda lou
Gender: Female
Age: 40 years old
Lived: Saturday, 17 December 1966 - Tuesday, 11 September 2007

My Story

in 1999 my mother was diagnosed with medullary thyroid cancer, i was 9 yrs old. although i didn't really know anything about cancer i knew it was a disease that took lives. the day we all feared was never spoken about but we all knew the inevitable would descend upon us.

after an operation to remove the tumour mum had 6 wks of radiotherapy and over the next 8 yrs around 5-6 bouts of chemo would follow. all i was told was that the cancer was untreatable but chemo would buy her time, she could have died at any time. as the years went by i pushed the one person i could trust further and further away and in the proccess fooled myself into thinking i would have all the time in the world to make it right. as i got older i still did not learn much about the ins and outs of what was going on untill things took a turn for the worse.

a few days before her 38th birthday mum went to hospital.i don't remember why,i think it had something to do with her breathing.the next couple of days went by,her condition deteriorated and she was heavily sedated, as if she was in a coma. my auntie thought at first that i should not go to the hospital but decided it would be best and advised me to prepare for the worst. i was terrified by the sight that awaited me. as we arrived at the icu we was taken to a seperate room, as i walked in all i struggled to take in the sight of all the machines and the wires drapped across the bed. as far as i am aware christmas eve was the night my mum fought her hardest to hang on to her life, i didn't go that night because i just couldn't face it. i don't remeber what happened over the next few days but i do remember a few days later she was concious, she couldn't speak because she wa still on the ventilator. she gradually improved and was moved to trinity hospice and in time was well enough to come home. it was 2006 by then. she had to use an oxygen machine and whenever she wanted to go out had to be in a wheelchair with an oxygen canister. over the next year mum was in and out of hospital due to fluid building up in her lungs. all the while this disease was spreading, little did we know that fateful day was descending upon us faster than we could ever have imagined.

in 2007 i fulfilled her 1 wish, to see a grandchild. 9 days after his birth mum was once again hospitalized. it was at this time i realized i didn't have much time left with my mum. due to it being the weekend the consultant would not be available and asked mum if anything were to happen would she want to be ressucitated, she looked at me as if to say sorry and replied no. nothing happened over that weekend and once again i had my mother home, where she belonged. around 13 wks later the breathlessness returned and this time i felt something wasn't right. something inside me said this times it's the cancer and she is never coming home. i tried my hardest to push this thought to the back of my head but no matter how hard i tried i couldn't ignore it. he doctors drained the fluid but still wanted to keep mum in over the weekend and if all was well she would have been home on monday the 10th sep 07. but over the weekend things got bad, then they went from bad to worse. on the monday i recieved a phonecall from the ward sister to let me know mum had got worse she was now on 15litres of oxygen per minute, the before she was on 6litres per minute. i was attending a funeral that day in place of my mum. i arrived home at around 7pm and phoned the hospital to spaek to her but she was unable to talk because of the oxygen mask so i spoke to my auntie. she said i need to come up just in case anything happened. at 8pm i arrived and learned that the intensive care team had been called but mums body was too weak to be put under sedation. throughout the evening she got worse, something told me to stay but i had to get my son home. i arrived home at 1:30am and less than 6 hrs later i recieved a phonecall from the night staff to say yet again mums condition was worsening. my auntie phoned a few minutes later to say she was on her way up there and i should make my way up aswell. at 7:44am, around 30 mins later my auntie txt me asking me to phone her, as she answered the phone and heard my voice she broke down ' i'm so sorry' was all i heard before my whole life came crashing down around me. exactly a week after admitting herself into hospital and the day she was due to come home, my mother was dead. she was 40 yrs old, when her life should have been just beginning it had ended. a big part of everyone around us died that day. for 9 yrs she suffered in pain but she battled through each and every day with a smile. when i got to the hospital that day she was still smiling and it was the most honest smile i had seen since i was 9 yrs old.

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Biography

Fathers Name: Eddie Messenger
Mothers Name: Eileen Messenger
Children's Names: Amy messenger, Richard taylor and Melissa taylor
Siblings Names: Tracy Messenger and Samantha Messenger
Country of Birth: United Kingdom
Country of Residence: United Kingdom
City of Residence: london
Marital Status: Single

Interests

Favourite Sport: Football
Favourite Team: arsenal
Favourite Book: anythin non fiction
Favourite Music Genre: Other
Favourite Artist: frank sinatra/robbie williams/justin timberlake
Favourite Charity: most charities

Passing

Place of Passing: st thomas' hospital
Date of Passing: 11 September 2007
Cause of Passing: metastatic medullary thyroid cancer
Type of Funeral: burial
Place of Burial: lambeth cemetery
Funeral Director: edmond and sons
Funeral Location: lambeth cemetery
Funeral Date: 4 October 2007
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