SUSAN  MURPHY's Memorial

SUSAN MURPHY
(1946 - 2007)

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Name: Mrs SUSAN MURPHY
Nick Name: SUE
Maiden Name: EDMONDS
Gender: Female
Age: 61 years old
Lived: Saturday, 31 August 1946 - Saturday, 3 November 2007

My Story

.In 1996 mum was diagonsed with Ovarian Cancer and was given 2 years to live. She outlived the two years in a big way. Not only did out mum get Cancer once , try 13 TIMES Mum was strong, The specialist who is one of the best would give her six mths to live then a year and so on but still she fought and never once did she give up. What she went through over the next 11 and a half year was unbelivable, Go through the whole treatment process to be told she was in all good to go back for a check up 2 months later to be told this terrible disease is back again ,so we were all down again.But still she never give up and she fought, she fought SO hard.Mum became the longest surviving Australian to last Ovarian Cancer  Mum was so positive , she was here for her grandkids all 8 of them. Mum began a trial treatment last January 2007 after her specialist had only given her until xmas to live the previous xmas 2006 but yet again she shocked all the doctors and nurses. They would look at her like in disbelief as to how well she would do, "you are unbeliveable Susan" they would all say. They all knew her, and knew how strong she was. Mum was on a trial and she was just so well and all was good..".THEN Late October at a routine Chemotherapy session that she had every week she had her fate dealt to her. As she was having Chemo she was put onto a bed, , so when she stood up go to the toilet she slipped AND HAD A BAD FALL. The problem was not just the fall it was that her"portacath"which is a instrument inserted permanatly into her leg has dislodged when she fell and the catherter that comes out of the portacath that the chemo gets connected to has come out of the main vein. Mum told the nurse that she hurt her was rea\lly sore however the nurse just said I think you wold have just bruised it and left it at that.The following day at home mum's leg was still very sore , it had gone all red and swollen so dad took her back to the hospital as she did not appear well at all.They said that mum has just bruised it but that there must be a infection in her body somewhere for some reason, not even mentioning the fall. So they injected antibiotics into this portacath, that unbeknown to the docs and nurse was now brewing a major infection so,as the antibiotics went around her body so did this deadly infection. Within two days she was in a coma and fighting for her life. How do we comprehend this??? She was SOOO well. Now here she was in a coma and the docs said she won't make the night and she won't wake up. We hadn't said goodbye we hadn't told her we loved her, we had so much to still say to her. We sat there crying, watching each breath she struggled to take. I still had this thought though, it's mum she won't go like this. I kept saying to her " mum if there is ever a time to fight now is it!" "Please mum fight don't go".Mum got so close to death that she got the death rattle that people get in a coma when they are very close to death. But then suddenly she woke up!!! SHE SAT UP. She wanted to know what all the fuss was! "Mum you have a very bad infection you are in hospital, please Mum fight with ALL that you have!!" We begged her. We just kept telling her how much we loved her. Man oh man I can't live without my mum I kept thinking.Mum would then slip back into the coma and this went on for two days, She would get really close to her last breath then wake up and say something, Not always making sense but she was awake and that was the main thing!Fight she did. And yet again she amazed all the doctors and Nurses and certainly us. She came to so much that they transferred her to her own room saying yes things are much better but still not out of the woods yet. We would have her up in bed talking to us, allot of the time the things she was saying made no sense , such as she thought she was at home on the couch and asked me to take her to bed, asked my sister n law if she was a volenteer,  kept saying there were butterflies and fish all around the room and believe it she was not having any Morphine or pain killers as she had no pain she just had antilbiotics up and blood transfusions. Then all of a sudden on one of my many all day all night stays me and mum sat and talked for hours. She was so co heriant. She made sense, she could not belive it when the doctors and us told her how close she was to death.She couldn't believe it when we told her. The doctors then realised that the source of infection had come from her Portcath so the best thing was to get it straight out, however the surgery was booked out but her specialist said she could not wait any longer itm ust come out. So he decided that he would drape mums room up on the ward and the surgeon could come to her. When the surgeon arrived he was in disbelief! The next words that came out of his mouth were " I DON"T WORK IN THESE CONDITIONS!But for some reason it went ahead. Mums leg was SO badly infection the base of the infection was the size of a baseball and bubbling. It squirted from her leg to the wall on the other side of the room. They said the surgery went well under the conditions and mum seemed to cope as they had to keep her awake for the surgery as she wasn't well enough to have a anesetic Mum seemed to be doing so well having a few ups and downs but the doctors started saying there was now hope this was Thursday in November 2007. The following day after a resonable day she started to go down hill. I went into the waiting room about two in the morning as I wanted her to get a couple of hours sleep without me disturbing her as I was bad for waking her up to make sure she was okay.I wasgone say 4-5 minutes when a nurse came and got me saying"your mum wants you". I went back to her room and mum said "Do not leave me by myself"This frightened me. However as mum's heart rate seemed to be going up quite rapidly from the lack of oxygen in her blood she said it was a scary feeling. Seven o'clock the next morning I hit absolute exhaustion, I had been awake for three days I was running on adrenaline, So I said I will go home and have a shower and a nap and come back in the arvo as My dad was there at this point. This I did only top get a call from Dad at 3PM to say 'get to the hospital right now mum was in a really bad way and was not going to make it".I have never driven through Brisbane city SO fast.They had taken mum down to theaatre. My Dad met us at the front doors of the hospital along with one of my brothers. Dad said that one of the doctors that works for mums specialist who was just so lovely had gone with dad to take her down to theatre and her shift had finished hours prior but she wanted to be there with mum. Dad said as mum went into theatre as they needed to put a 'pic" in her arm as all her veins were shot mum had turned around and told Dad she loved her and said tell all the kids I love them very much. So she had a feeling then that things were not good.Dad was a mess. Anyway we got back up to the ward expecting bad news or mum to still be in theatre and here she was sitting up in bed in a pool of sweat. We were shocked to see her back. They had a pic in her arm But you could see  she was in a bad way!. Mum looked at us and said "where have you been!?"  I told her it's all okay and that it is so great to see her. She seemed to be really struggling to breathe. The doctor came in and told us they had got the pic in but they didn't know how long it would last and that mum was now sadly in heart failure. This was it for me. I broke down. Was this really it? Were we really losing our mum?The nurse kept mucking around with mum's urine catherder and mum kept saying get all my family here and please leave me along to the nurses. She had , had it. They said that they really needed to get another catherder in as the one that was in was not working at all making no urine and that that either meant that it had come out with the moving beds in theatre or that she was in kidney failure.. Sadly after yet another catherder yes she was in kidney failure. They explained this meant mum did not have long as everything was shitting down. Our whole family was here at this point and we were told it would not be long. We all knew that we had to tell mum anything that we wanted to say now!!!!
I love you mum so much you are an inspiration to all, you are so damn strong. She told us all she loved us and that she will be waiting for us all. She was so strong. We stood there and watched mum sadly take her last breaths as she lay very peacefully sleeping and then she slipped away... Such a empty feeling, such a loss. But she looked so peaceful, she looked nothing short of the most beautiful woman in the world! She is our mum
Here I am about9 wks later and we are lost we miss her so much. But each day has to go on. The grandkids miss there 'nanny' so much. dad is struggling, he is just "LOST" without her.We are in the process of having questions answered with the hospital. We know nothing will sadly bring our beautiful mum back but we need answers.To everyone reading this. We all need a mum. No one can ever replace your own mum. So next time you see her cuddle her and tell her how much you truely love her as sadly we just never know when  the next cuddle will be the last.Enjoy every moment with loved ones as every moment is so special!

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Biography

Country of Birth: New Zealand
Country of Residence: Australia
City of Residence: Brisbane
Marital Status: Married

Interests

Favourite Team: warriors and broncos
Favourite Music Genre: Country

Passing

Place of Passing: Mater Hospital,Brisbane
Date of Passing: 3 November 2007
Cause of Passing: Sepsis
Type of Funeral: Very beautiful one!!
Place of Burial: PINAROO LAWN CEMETRY
Plot Number: 21c
Funeral Director: Traditional Funerals
Funeral Location: Burpengary
Funeral Date: 9 November 2007
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