On one of the happiest days, Emma Kate Hanley, 6lbs, 10 and a half ounces, 21 inches long, was born.  For 5 months and 8 days this beautiful baby girl was loved and cherished by all.  Then one horrible night, the saddest day, she went down for a nap and didn't wake up.  She died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.  It has been 12 years now, and the pain of that moment is just as real as it was that night. 
A poem that I have read many times expressed all of my feelings and today still holds true.  It is a poem written by another mother who lost her precious child to S.I.D.S.

Just Say, "I'm Sorry"
By Gail Fasolo

You don't know how I feel-please don't tell me that you do.
There's just one way to know-have you lost a child, too?
"You'll have another child"-must I hear that each day?
Can I get another mother, too, if mine should pass away?

Don't say it was "God's will"-that's not the God I know.
Would God on purpose break my heart, then watch as my tears flow?
"You have an angel in heaven-a precious child above."
But, tell me, to whom here on earth shall I give this love?

"Aren't you better yet?" Is that what I heard you say?
No! A part of my heart aches-I'll always feel some pain.
You think that silence is kind, but it hurts me even more.
I want to talk about my child, who has gone through death's door.

Don't say these things to me, although you do mean well.
They do not take my pain away, I must go through this hell.
I will get better slow but sure-and it helps to have you near,
But a simple "I'm sorry that you lost your child" is all I need to hear.